• Struggling With Success, and Self-Esteem

    Many of us have issues with self-confidence and self-esteem. It can be difficult to admit, even to yourself, and even more difficult to talk about. The reason, according to researcher Brené Brown, Ph.D., has to do with shame, something that, based on the research, all of us have, but no one wants to talk about. Low self esteem can negatively impact almost every aspect of our lives.

    According to Dr. Brown's 13+ years of research, shame is a deeply held belief, often not even conscious, that we are unworthy of love and belonging. Shame prevents us from truly loving ourselves, or from being able to deeply love others. It means we are constantly "hustling" for self worth, by adapting ourselves to be what others want us to be, so that we can "fit in". But "fitting in" isn't belonging, and it becomes a vicious cycle; the more we try to fit in, the more shame we have, because we realize we're "fitting in" rather than actually authentically being ourselves and being accepted and loved for who we are. 

    So obviously, if we're "faking it", fitting in, and hustling for our self-worth, we're not going to have good self-esteem, because, whether consciously or unconsciously, we will realize that we aren't being authentic, which continues the shame spiral. This has an enormous effect on us, and the newest research shows that the effect of low self-esteem can go well beyond what you might think of at first glance, impacting our ability to find and maintain healthy relationships, success and advancement in our career, and our earning potential. A significant and growing body of evidence also points to low self-esteem as directly correlated to the development of many degenerative diseases, including some of those thought to be mostly genetic. This includes arthritis, many cancers, ALS, osteoporosis, most addictions, and many other degenerative diseases. 

    Low self-esteem, then, can be serious and pervasive throughout many aspects of our lives. Fortunately, it is also a very solvable problem. The foundation of the coaching we offer for self-esteem issues is based on the psychoeducational work of Dr. Brown's clinical research, and the psychoeducational methodologies and techniques she and her colleagues have developed to help us to better accept and love ourselves, to find and accept love from others, to ask for what we need, and to believe in ourselves. We've found that this work is among the most profound and powerful for our clients, and one of the single most transformational pieces of the coaching work we offer.

  • How Can this Benefit Me?

    • Be more confident in the work-place.
    • Feel more true to yourself and others. 
    • Enjoy deeper connection with friends and loved ones. 
    • Calm the anxiety/ self-doubt that rules your life. 
    • Invigorate your sense of adventure and courage. 
    • Love better.
    • Laugh harder. 
    • Live more. 
  • What Does Coaching Look Like for Success and Self-Esteem?

    We start the coaching process by exploring the impact low self esteem is having, with an eye toward identifying goals and supporting work in line with the desires of the client. We also look at any previous efforts to address self-esteem issues; often by looking at the "things that get in the way", we can identify processes, patterns, or beliefs underlying our behaviors that sabotage us, and the goal of the coaching work is to identify these processes and develop strategies we can use when these roadblocks come up to bypass them. Sometimes we find that mindsets, beliefs, and attitudes are blocking our long-term success, so again, we work to identify strategies to bypass those roadblocks when they arise. 

    This work isn't therapy, and isn't about "messing with your head", but about educating and self-awareness of patterns and beliefs, and how they affect us. Through a series of discussions, exercises, homework assignments, and other activities in individual coaching sessions, we explore and establish individualized goals focused on self-esteem and self-worth issues, and then identify and map out strategies to achieve these goals. The coaching process helps to create supportive, non-judgmental accountability to help keep the client on track. 

  • Contact info:

    Workshop date/ format is to be determined at a later date. 

    Individual coaching is currently available.

    Call 916-317-9497 for more info.